I'm sorry, you've made the wrong decision.
Here are some points that you need to consider. You should have included all of these in your reflective activity.
- Your action in responding to Kelly’s private message and agreeing to meet her in this situation indicates that you do not have a clear understanding of professional boundaries. Although Kelly is no longer in your direct care and support, you and your organisation may still have statutory responsibilities towards her. By forming this relationship with Kelly, you could place yourself in a conflict of interest. For example, what would happen if she disclosed something to you as a friend and asked you to keep it confidential but you felt you should pass on to a worker?
- If you are concerned that she may be feeling lonely, you should share this with her through care worker. You may not be aware of the plan of care and all the support that is being given to Kelly by the worker, so your actions could actually undermine work that is already being done with her.
- Kelly’s behaviour when you meet indicates that she may be at further risk. Your employer will have policies and procedures about reporting concerns. By agreeing to meet her again rather than reporting your concerns, you are not following these which could lead to disciplinary action taken against you by your employer. You action could also be investigated by the SSSC.
- Depending upon the security settings that Kelly has on her account, her posts may be shared with a lot of people that you would not wish to see the picture, including parents and relatives of other young people receiving services from you. This could damage your professional reputation and lead to your suitability to be a social service worker being questioned. The picture might also be seen by the young people which could undermine your ability to carry out your role effectively.
- Agreeing to meet Kelly again indicates that you are not aware of how she might regard your relationship. While you may only be doing this to provide her with support, she could regard this as confirmation that you want to be her friend. This could lead to expectations on her part that put you in a more vulnerable position, which you find difficult to withdraw from.
When you received the initial friends request from Kelly, the right thing to do was to not to respond to it and to contact her through care worker right away. You can find more about why this was the right thing to do here
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